Friday, November 21, 2008
Whew Whee. Here we are. Another anniversary.
Our secret? Keep in mind I know nothing about anyone else’s marriage. What works for them, what’s best for them, I only know this marriage.
And in this marriage I can only say our longevity and viability is due to a couple of powerful concepts/truths.
1. When you see a happy, long term marriage you are looking at a couple of really good forgivers. They forgive each other for being mortal, for being sinners, for being so, well, fallen and natural manish. Forgiveness says: I will not treat you badly because of your sins against me or your annoying habits.
2. When you see two highly incompatible people who yet manage to live in happy incompatibility you are looking at a couple of really good forbearers of strangeness. They put up with each others’ quirks, messiness, love of cardboard, money counting and immature selfishness. And sometimes the depth of immaturity can be staggering. Sort of Woody Allen-like who famously quipped,”Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.” Yeah, like that.
3. When you see a couple of oldyweds, 29 years, 3 kids and serious combined poundage later you are looking at two people blessed by grace. Because the Savior gets the credit when two very different and very imperfect people forge a life of faithfulness by relying on Him.
Happy Anniversary, ld. Don’t think I don’t know how lucky we are. Don’t think I don’t know how blessed I am to have married you. Thanks for all your share of the hard, rugged work of forgiving and forbearing. Love you more than air.